Tuesday, May 30, 2006

What I saw on the TODAY show...by kim

Spanx are back, footless tights/leggings, with ballet flats, worn with a knee length pencil skirt.

Full length leggings with a full skirt and pumps or slingbacks

Capri leggings, peep toe heels, pencil skirt and tank off the shoulder.

*Cindy Lauper singing, 'Girls just wanna have fun'!*



Honestly, first the pumps came back and pointy (awful) shoes.

And I thought, hmmm, I remember in 6th grade (middle of the 80's) pumps were in for quite a few years, could it be????

Then, I started noticing...Young girls coming in asking about perms..(a sure sign of the 80's coming) and now lately they are asking for more bangs, every time its a little more of a bang, seriously, I kid you not! I'm waiting for them to ask me "how do you get them to be really full?" It'll happen, trust me, it'll happen SOON!

Come on people, It's happening before our eyes, notice the silver and gold purses, the shiney metallics, the sparkle in everything....These signs are sure signs of the 80's! I even bought metallic purple eyeglasses last week, they were soo cool and shiney and have a little rhinestone on the corners, then I realized...omg, OMG, these are so 80's...sigh*

Well I pretend, that I am disturbed by this, but in reality, I kinda liked the 80's:) I'm just laughing at everyone who makes fun of them. It's the same when I was in high school and the 80's were edging out of style, the threat of bell bottoms were becoming imminent, and I was saying "no way in hell, will I wear bell bottoms or even boot cut, NOOO WAY"! Well guess which are my favorite jeans?? DKNY Soho's (boot cut!)

Well just so you know, be prepared, even Victoria Secret catalog, you will notice, in the jean section, yes a majority are still boot cut, wide leg, etc. BUT there are a few that have TAPERED LEGS as well, oh yes! Tapered leg jeans are coming back. I will just have to wait for THAT high school girl that will ask me how to make the tapered leg jeans that she just bought, tighter than they are....AND, I'll have the answer...you make a crease, then fold up two more times....

Oh this was funny, I got an email message from this girl in high school asking me how to achieve the 80's look. Of course when I read it, I was soo excited and eager to help, she was doing it for a school dance, with an 80's theme. She googled 80's big hair or something and got my blog, and emailed me for help. She was asking me the funniest things and I happily answered all that I could!! So little miss Jen, the gig is up, I know that you don't have a high school 80's night, you just want all the tips on how to look like a good 80's girl, to set the new trends in school! HAHA, you are brilliant!!

Well have to go guys, since the TODAY show said leggings were in, I'm going to get my self some Spanx!! (I think that will get me some interesting hits, thats for sure!!) And of course, I'll need some of those cute ballet flats, yayayayyayayayay!!

I just got back from the market and I will tell you right now, I was standing in front of a girl with tapered leg, with a zipper on the side, jeans! Double HA!

Damn how I wish I'd saved my GUESS jeans and that cute frilly jean skirt that I used to wear my pink leggings with the lace on the bottom!!

Who can recall their most favorite outfit from that period?? Tell me, tell us all:)

Monday, May 29, 2006

A surprise romantic weekend...By Kim

Since Wednesday night, I have been lying through my teeth to my beloved frog!! During the week he mentioned, once again, what a terrible liar I am, It's true, I just cannot lie, especially to him! Well, I PROVED HIM WRONG!! MUAHAHAHAHAH!

We normally see eachother every other weekend. And with Cheese's visitation schedule, his father had him this Memorial day! So last year, we all went to Montreal and stayed a nice long weekend, which was nice, this year though, I was blocked, as I had Cheese back on Sunday, and then he went to his Father's on Monday. Well on Wednesday, his father asked if he could just keep him on Sunday, so they could do something, I happily obliged (hoping that he would see how easy that was and follow suit someday, yeah, I'm a dreamer, I know) Now during this whole time, my good friend Sherry was going to be in Buffalo for a judo tournament with her kids and we were going to meet up. So this is all going on the week before, making plans to do stuff, I would visit them on Sunday with both kids and all the kids could play and we could visit! WELL, the wrench was thrown into the plans when Cheese's father decided to keep him and I hatched a plan, since I had such a great alibi, with my friend coming. (I'm so confusing I know, get to the point!!!)

Here is what I did...

I called my friend, and asked her if it was possible to just us meet up on Friday night after work, we could both drive one hour and meet for dinner, perfect!

I maintained my story with the frog and told him that I was going to spend all day Sunday with her and also go meet her for dinner, just the two of us, on Friday AND her and her family would come to my village to tour around here on Saturday after work, but it was impairent that they would have to be back in Buffalo around 10 for weigh in (this is where I become a bad liar, I throw in extras, that never make sense and tend to blow my cover) Now normally, the frog and I try to talk about our day and we spend time on the phone or online, you know, me and the kids eat dinner, and the frog is on speakerphone at the table with us and since we met over 1 1/2 years ago, we have almost not had a day apart or not talking to eachother. So we were both being all wishy washy about not getting much time to talk and so on. (heheheh, I knew better though;)

I met up with my dear friend on Friday, stayed up till 1am with her, finished my laundry and packing at 3:30am and off to bed for 4 hours of sleep! Incidentally, I forgot to call the frog I got home, as he was very panicked that I had not made it home okay the night before. (It's so lovely and wonderful to be so cherished:) Now during that day, before I left to meet my friend, he was saying how much he was missing me and why didn't he make train arrangements and take a train to Niagara Falls where I could pick him up and we could be together, and OMG, it took every ounce of me not to shout, "I'm coming to see you don't worry, I'm coming!!" But I just continued to LIE LIE LIE!!! I elaborated about going to see her, her coming here, etcetera, etcetera..hahahah!!

I went to work that morning, all the girls at work knew about it, and were sooo excited too, I called and said that my friends were coming around 4 and we would be done with dinner and touring around 8, so if he wanted to talk to me on the phone, he should definitely be home then!

I was able to leave work a little earlier, thanks to my overly excited boss, who moved my schedule around so I could leave earlier and drove to Montreal! It is a 4 hour drive, so I had plenty of time to execute my last and final lie.. I would call from the gas station by his house and tell him we had just pulled over and that I would be home a little later and that I missed him, I made sure to pretend to talk to one of her kids and say "tell your mom, I'm just making a phone call".

I then drove to his house and rang his door. I had my camera and wanted to shoot his picture, as his face was soo shocked and so cute, but I totally forgot and was wrapped up in the surprise to think about it:)

I was able to trick him and that is a very difficult feat, as this particular frog is very keen on details and very very very observant!! YAYAYAY!!

We had the most wonderful weekend, and I have plenty of photos to post, BUT, I forgot my camera at his house, and he cannot upload them and insert them, because of course I have the adaptor, so you will have to be patient and wait till Saturday when he comes again this weekend:)

After we both calmed down, we decided to figure out what to do, we went on a quick walk together....OH WAIT, DID I MENTION THAT I HAD NOOOO KIDS WITH ME!!!

We decided to go to the Irish pub, the first place we went together more than 1 1/2 years ago. We had a great night with our friend Frederic, walked through the party party district of Montreal, saw a fight happen between some young kids...ooh was I glad we were at the nice sedate Hurley's Pub. That stuff scares me now!

The next day, we had a leisurely morning and then went for a trek to Parc Jean Depeau, and island off of the big island, with beautiful gardens and so much to see. We walked and walked and walked, (and then walked some more!) We had a really nice picnic and relaxed, a very joie de vivre day!!

That night we went to see the movie, Da Vinci Code, went home and snuggled all night!

Our time together is so precious, and to be able to spend an extra weekend all to ourselves, seemed so indulgent and sweet, that I actually felt guilty! (but not that much!!)

Tuesday, May 23, 2006

The 7th Birthday of little Cheese, it was a happy day!

The calm before the storm!

The small storm, not too bad though, not all the kids came! Thank goodness!

I was tagged by Pumpkin Pie...by Kim

I'll do my meme from the wonderful Pumpkin Pie! This is great, because although I need to blog blog blog....I am too exhausted to be creative, so this is perfect for tonight!! And tomorrow, maybe I will have the energy to blog about the birthday party, my neice, the stupid english teacher at my Pickle's school. See now I am commited to blogging about those things, it's in writing afterall!

5 items in my fridge

1. Leftover cupcakes from birthday party, that I am trying not to eat all the frosting from!
2. Skirt steak for fajita's tomorrow night dinner, YUM! (sorry my frog;)
3. Leftover chicken terriyaki from Cheese's birthday dinner at the Japanese steakhouse!
4. Taco Salad from dinner last night
5. Organic whole milk yogurt..mmmmmmmmmmm!!!

5 items in my closet (I don't have a closet, just an armoire)

1. Jeans
2. Capris
3. Too many shirts
4. 4 skirts and 2 dresses
5. My skivvies and my favorite sock collection!

5 items in my car

1. water bottles
2. Gum, pens, eyedrops, lipstick, change, lip blam! (that is just in the front console)
3. Booster seat in the back
4. Story tapes
5. Birth certificates and passports.

5 items in my purse

1. Client formula's
2. Gum
3. Kiss me mascara
4. Plenty of receipts
5. Pens galore!
5 people I’m tagging

I won't tag anyone, because I'm too sure who has been tagged so far:)

Thanks for my meme, I kinda like these things, they remind me of the old fashioned slam books from high school!

Sunday, May 21, 2006

This is too funny, I had to share this with you all!

Thursday, May 18, 2006

Daily dancer wanabee...by kim

Here is our contestant number 2. He can move just like the daily dancer, if you look closely, they have similiar moves!

No need to enter him in a dance off, he's already booked! Hahaha

I just love to laugh at my kid's expense!!!

You tube is soo easy!..by kim

We love daily dancer, he is great!!

The kids watch all the new additions!!

They wanted to make their own version!

Please don't send money for dance lessons, it won't help:) Hahahah!

I'm trying the youtube craze!..by kim

This video made me laugh so hard!

Boy, I wish I had that much energy!

Tuesday, May 16, 2006

Kids say the darndest things...by kim

We are getting ready for the big 7!!

Cheese is turning 7 and we are doing a soccer party! We all felt too guilty excluding kids in his class, only inviting a few, so we are going for the gold and inviting the whole class!! (It's already been established, we are crazy!)

Tonight we went to get some stuff for the favors. I had this great idea, to make candy gummy shishkabobs. We picked up the skewers, chose all he gummies. Oh that was fun, we went to the bulk section and were able to pick out octopuses, tarantulas, cherries, strawberries, alligators, all kinds of fish, raspberries, blue hoops, peach slices, watermelon slices, coca cola bottles and oh so many more! (not sure who was having more fun, me or them!)

After all our chores and homework duties, we set everything out on the table and started assembling the kabobs of sugar! I will take pictures for sure, as they are super duper adorable!! This process was so fun, stabbing the gummies and can you believe it, we didn't eat one single gummy! (want to know my stategy for that?? I made them brush their teeth before! Come on, I had to do that, once you eat one, you cannot stop!)

During the last couple of kebobs, Cheese leans over to Pickles and says "When we have kids someday, lets do this with them, it's so fun!"

It just makes my heart swell!

By the way, did I mention, we invited 19 kids?? The frog will be very busy:)

Monday, May 15, 2006

what do you do while waiting for a train?

Well you take the carnation you got for mother's day dinner and you take silly photos in the car, (don't think about all the other people in the other cars, wondering why everyone in the blue car is crammed in the front seat, with flashes going on) then you go outside and teach the kids to fake make out and laugh really hard, cause the little one doesn't get it! (never worrying about the people sitting in their car, thinking we are one crazy family)

Cheap therapy, when you are going through a divorce....By Kim

Really quick, as I am very tired from my short whirwind weekend with my beloved frog, who I had to bring to the train station, just hours ago, booohoooo!

When I was going through my divorce, (who am I kidding, I'm still going through it, blech!) 3 years ago, I needed desperately to get my mind off of things, before I was sucked into doom and gloom. I could not go out and shop, (needed to eat, dontcha know;) I couldn't even treat myself to a vacation....So I found a cheap hobby to do, and it was oh so fun! I would just sit on the floor and paint, and suddenly feel so much better!

Now I'm not saying that its really great, and my inspirations were usually marked by my mood, or seeing something on TV or maybe looking at decorating books, whatever caught my fancy. The copper colored table with the leaves on the top, was a picture of a rug in some decorating magazine. The purple one, with the diamonds was made for a friend, she had a little box that I used for inspiration. I have another friend who has 3 of my tables, I will try to get pictures of them, just for fun!

I would find the furniture wherever, garage sales, or they were old things I had that I thought suddenly were too boring. I guess I was looking to gussy up my life! My ex liked things to be, plain, no artistic flare was welcome!

I'm not the artist in the family, (you would understand if you saw my stick figures, pathetic!) That would be my sister, she is amazingly talented, but never uses her talent anymore. I can make something look a little different, a little gussied up, a little pretty! It's fun!

The blue table, with the green and blue swirls, I made for the frog for his birthday, the first day I was meeting him. Can you imagine pulling up after driving 4 hours, er it was midnight or after, I'm unloading my stuff, (ALL my stuff, like I was staying for a month) and here I am carrying this painted table, I was really confident, no?? It was my favorite thing I made, and I was thinking, wow, I could keep this, I like it a lot. Never thinking that someday, I will have it in our house together someday! :)

Okay to bed now, I felt guilty for not blogging all weekend, and just spent a bit of time getting caught up with you all, I will have to go back to comment later, I kept wanting to comment, as all of you had such interesting things going on, but I was too tired to make the words come out:o) My weekend was wonderful, just wonderful, I can't explain how life is like a dream when he is here. The boys are already missing him, while we were getting ready, they were making notes to put in his lunch that we prepared for him tomorrow (he won't get in till after 1am, and then up for work at 6am) and I came out and Cheese was crying, but trying to hold it in. He wouldn't/couldn't' tell me what was bothering him, it was a combination of wanting to write so much in his little note and being sad that he was leaving, but he was just sobbing. I felt so bad, he holds onto his leg and cries almost every time! I told him the frog was coming back on Friday, but then regretted saying that, as he is at his dad's till Sunday, and only has a little time with the frog...Sigh* next week T will get to stay till Monday (victorious day in CA:) Okay..Its officially a ramble of thoughts..I must get to bed!!! Goodnight, and well Goodmorning to some of you!

Thursday, May 11, 2006

The crazy things they ask us at the border...By Kim

We travel through the border quite often, I mean really, some of them recognize me and at duty free (they have the cleanest bathrooms, so we make a pit stop there) they actually offered me a frequent buyer card. I thought, gee, you know you have a boyfriend in Canada, when they offer you that. The lady said, well I noticed you were here very often, she was saying there are quite a few people that are in the same situation. (Now if I could find those people, maybe we could carpool or join a club)

It's funny, going into Canada, they sometimes never even take my passport of the kids info, they just ask me a few question, and then okay, you can go. On the US side its much different, they have to ask you tons of questions, and look into your car, (as if I may be concealing some illegal fruits or stuff, like I would hide it, where they could see it from their podium, ppff)

What is funnier is guessing what they will ask this time. Oh, let me tell you, we have had some questions, that the shocked look on my face, must speak volumes, because they will sometimes explain why they ask. Now I ask them questions, just random questions, I figure what the heck, it's only fair.

Here are some of the questions that we get asked regularly passing over the bridges and to the border to Thomas house or train we go.......

(Border control in CAPS, me regular)

WHAT WILL YOU BE DOING IN CANADA? We are visiting my boyfriend.
WHERE DID YOU MEET YOUR BOYFRIEND AND HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN DATING HIM? umm, about 1 1/2 years and is that really important? WELL DID YOU MEET HIM ONLINE? uh, are you kidding me? DO YOU HAVE ANY FIREARMS OR WEAPONS IN THE CAR? No of course not, but really do people really admit to you when they do?OKAY YOU CAN GO (aha, they don't like it when you ask questions)

WHAT WILL YOU BE DOING IN CANADA? I'm picking up my boyfriend at the train station in brockville and then coming back. WILL YOU BE STAYING FOR 48 HOURS? No I'm picking up my boyfriend and then coming right back here. ANY FIREARMS OR WEAPONS OR TOBACCO IN THE VEHICLE? Sigh* no OKAY YOU CAN GO

WHY ARE YOU COMING TO CANADA? To visit a friend in Montreal. HOW LONG WILL YOU BE STAYING WITH THIS FRIEND? 5 days. ARE THESE KIDS YOURS? Well yes they are, would you like to see the birth certificates?(they did not BTW) DO YOU HAVE ANY FIREARMS OR WEAPONS? No I do not. OKAY YOU CAN GO

WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO IN CANADA? We'll be staying with him for 5 days for holiday. AND WHO IS HE TO YOU? (uh, my lover), er boyfriend (I'm so sick of saying boyfriend, but didn't have the gall to say 'lover') HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN DATING? 1 1/2 years. AND HOW DID YOU MEET? Through friends (apparently saying you met on the internet is very scandalous, as the look the one guy gave me, you know, the you mean you aren't chopped up in his freezer look) NOW THIS MAY SEEM A LITTLE PERSONAL, BUT DO YOU PLAN ON GETTING MARRIED??? (I kid you not, he asked this, I think we both must have dropped our jaws) yes eventually, but not while I'm in Canada, if that is what you are asking, and why are you asking? AND DO YOU THINK YOU'LL BE MOVING TO CANADA, WHEN YOU DO THIS??? No definitely not. OH WELL ITS JUST TO KNOW IF YOU WILL BE MOVING TO CANADA IN THE FUTURE.

That guy was the most nosiest, er thorough!

On the US side, they look like they are going to shoot you.

They always ask...

HOW DID YOU MEET? (our standard answer) through friends.
WHAT DO YOU DO FOR A LIVING? (I always want to mess with them and tell them something different and bizarre everytime, but I'm such a goodgirl, I answer honestly) hairdresser, why do you need a new one? (one guy said, oh you can go, my mom was a hairdresser)

It's true, I wish I was really daring and they didn't look so scary, but I would really love to mess with them, just for fun you know ;)

They have asked us so many bizarre questions, we go through, and just laugh the rest of the way, coming up with different scenario's of what we would have liked to answered.

HOOOOORAY, I will be passing through the border to retrieve my frog tomorrow night and we will have a couple of glorious days together, so don't expect any posts, well unless of course, my frog will be doing the joy of living post, that jillybean is patiently waiting for!!

Wednesday, May 10, 2006

Just around the corner....by kim

Although I may not have Paris right in my back yard like some of you. I do have a Paris flea, right around the corner from me, in fact if you look in the reflection of the store window, way in the back is the vicinity of my house!

This store has oh so many beautiful things in it, the owner loves Paris flea markets and makes it her hobby to visit often and bring back stuff here. (and sell them for bucco bucks!;)

With the beautiful weather we have been taking a walk very often around town and when I pass this store, I can for a split second transport myself into a dreamworld of me, my frog, pickles and cheese, strolling down some beautiful French village, munching on a chocolatine and enjoying the scenery and storefronts. THEN I bump into a giant American flag in my face and realize, I'm still in New York.

Sick Wednesday!

Both kids are sick!

I am playing nurse mommy today.

Will post later when they are napping, or may be napping with them, I had a long night.

Tuesday, May 09, 2006

Talking to Americans...by Thomas

I love that show, and wanted to share a bit of it with you... Some of you probably know it already..for the ones who don't.. it is this Canadian journalists touring the US (standford or harvard campus and so on)...and ask ridiculous questions to americans...
Taking to Americans

Monday, May 08, 2006


I am reading the news from France everyday, and today I read something that makes me angry. Not angry, I don't think I can find a way to express my feelings at this exact moment.

Yesterday, the police found the body of this little 4yo boy called Mathias who had disappeared on saturday, and were worried about this little 5yo girl who had been kidnapped in her house. Today, we learnt that the little boy has been raped and killed, while they found the little girl dead in bag in the bathroom of the principal witness.

I have never been for death punishment in general, but whenever I hear this kind of abuses on kids, I feel an anger inside me... WHAT is more innocent and defenseless than a kid? I do hope they find the murderers really soon, but they can be definitely lucky that I am not making the laws, or even the father of one of these kids, because they can be sure that I would put back in use the torture chambers of the middle age. I am sure I will chill out in few days and regret what I am saying just now, but I really don't feel and don't WANT to find any excuses to these monsters. EVEN their death wouldn't make me feel better. La mort est trop douce...

I know I should be thinking about the families of these kids and, even it sounds useless and pointless, pray for them, but today at this hour, I just feel anger and hatred...Sorry for such a negative post...but I needed to vent.

A humbling weekend...By Kim

This past weekend, I had a GIANT piece of 'HUMBLE PIE' to say the least. I have been thinking for a while that life is tough, I've had to jump some hurdles, trust me, these were minor hurdles in comparison.

A few things that made me see, not only that things could always be worse, but that I am truly blessed for what I have and my struggles are minor, very minor!


First of all, I have great kids, they are the apple of my eye, they impress me every day with who they are, I have such admiration for them. Pickles as you may have read in 'A kids point of view' blog, has been having problems with a bully. He is not necessarily afraid, which after thinking about it, was a little discerning (are we really that desensitized in this society, that a death threat from someone, is not taken seriously, violence is so normal, that it doesn't jolt us?) he is bugged by it, and worried about other kids being affected by this kid. We have taken the steps, that I feel are necessary, I've talked to the parent (2 hours, didn't help), I've called the school (they have a plan of action, that they are crossing their fingers, hoping it will work). That is their last chance, the next thing that happens is I call the police and let them deal with it.

The parents of this kid, must be going through hell, (after the denial phase, I assume) here you have this baby, then cute little toddler, then little sweet boy and bam teenage years, (ha, preteen!) and you have this monster, who is wreaking havoc on everyone, he is so angry and violent, lashing out. Who knows what happened? How do you solve it? What is the cure? How do you put together the pieces? Honestly if it were my kid, I would put him in another school, with a new identity, and some major counseling. Not sure if even that would work.

Pickles is such a great kid, he worries about every other kid, he is kind, he is considerate, he has the most sensational manners, he can communicate fantastically with adults, he is respectful, a good loyal friend, I mean I could go on and on. Cheese is as sweet as can be, taking care of others, thinking of others, funny and a good example for everyone and again I could go on and on!! They are great brothers, sure they can be a little lazy and sometimes a little messy and forgetful, then again, so can I. But they are the two most wonderful boys!

I wish the other parents, the strength to fight this battle with their son, and I hope that in the end, they can salvage this boy and find him help with the demons within him.


Next, over the weekend, I sold my John Deere, this was a relief to me, as for 3 years it has been a huge debt over my head, but was not able to sell it, as my ex, was laying claim on it, and was insisting it would be HIS. When my lawyer assured him that yes it could be his, if he gave us the cash for the balance, as I would not trust him to take over the payments since he defaulted on a loan that was in my name, that he was responsible for, (yes, he is an ASS) he claimed that I would be paying for it and he would get it. Whatever, moron! I held on to it, making the payments, missing the payments (you know when we needed to eat;) and the lawn tractor SAT for 3 years. I paid it off this past January, in one lump sum for basically the same amount that I had financed it for 3 years prior, after figuring in finance charges, late payments and fees (hooray for me:) My brother in law was keeping it at his house and said he would buy it, when I got it in writing from the EX that it was okay for him to buy it. So when I asked the EX, he said NO, it was his and he would own it. My lawyer had told me 2 years okay to sell it, she had faxed his lawyer the proposal for the deal on that, him buying it, etc. And did not hear back from his lawyer in the allotted time, so said, it was safe to sell it. I didn't for so long, because my brother in law was agreeing to buy it and well, that was easier, and I hated the thought of having to deal with selling it.

I put a price up, and had a male friend handle the transaction, as I am NOT good with these things, I'm too soft and not assertive enough. The price I put was a fair price. Within the first week, we had a bite! But $700 under the asking price, I said No way! I said the lowest I would go would be $300 under the asking price. The lady said she would talk to her father and sister, she came back with $400 under, and I said, NO! I am SO sorry but, I really need to get this price and It is already a great deal, the tractor was one of the best ones on the market and had only been used for 1 month, it was practically brand new, she told me she knew that, and had contacted the store that I had gotten it at and they said that a new one of that model would be almost a grand more than what I was asking. I told her I was going through a messy divorce and this was my lawyer fees for my soon to be "cruella deville attorney that costs an arm and a leg and firstborn children" (and since I'm so fond of my first born, I needed to get the whole amount!) She said "okay, but my kids won't be eating this month!" (I thought oh, lady, I know that feeling, join the club;) She was very happy and joking and we had a very good connection. I could tell she was excited and I heard her kids in the background all excited too, I felt good!

That night I called her up to work out the details, and asked her about her divorce, mainly to get a recommendation about lawyers, you know, if "Cruella" didn't work out in the meeting I have with her. This women was SO funny and just had a great spirit about her! She preceded to tell me this horror story...She was a big city police officer, (one of the best, I hear now) she had pulled over a drunk driver, a college football player (a very famous college) and somehow during it, she had her hand in the window, the guy took off, dragging her miles down the road in a chase, the other cops stopped, hoping he would stop with the chase, they lost him and he did stop..He stopped and he preceded to beat her almost to death!!! She has had more than 6 back surgeries and has some mild neurological problems, is on disability for life, she got through that and after a couple or 3 years was on the mend.

While she was on the mend, her "dear husband" a very prominent lawyer in the big city she had worked in (not NYC, although he is there now practicing law) was selling their house, moving her into a small rental, she now calls lovingly "her shoebox" sold their yacht, took all the Stickly, promising her a brand new house on the lake and all new furniture, as he needed the other stuff for the office. She thought during that time that she had a good marriage and all was well (for some reason, her 2 girls hated the father, was afraid of him or whatever, now she realizes, that should have been a clue). Her girls came to her room one day, and stated that dear dad was doing something weird on the computer, they were going to find out what. They grabbed the laptop (they were 9 & 11 at that time) and found out he was soliciting sex in NYC, among other pornographic stuff, over 20,000 sites had been visited on their computer she later found! She could not believe this double life he was leading. She confronted him, he was outraged, and declared he would be going to verizon to get a new cell phone, he left AND never came back!! (she honestly makes jokes about this and laughs, her spirit is SO amazing!!) He has not seen the kids or contacted them since. The little boy told his mom, that he went downstairs and grabbed two garbage bags and left with them, he was saying, mommy they had bills in them. YES, they were garbage bags of money, of everything that he had been liquidating, that he had stashed right under her nose!

Now I'm thinking, girl, you gotta be set, with a lawyer for an EX and abandonment!!

Then she tells me, the rest of the horror story, and I kid you not, this women was able to look at the situation with laughter, saying out of it all she has 3 kids that she adores, she says, they aren't the smartest bunch of kids, they aren't the prettiest and they are a bit quirky, but they are mine, and I love them!! I wanted to cry from laughter and pity at the same time, she would have none of that, no pity for her, she was just fine!

The rest of the story, basically involves the entire city of lawyers not being able to represent her, because they knew the both of them and wouldn't touch the case with a ten foot pole, knowing what a shark her husband was. To making too much money in disability to get legal aid, but not enough to live on or feed her children. To having her credit destroyed and more debt than she could imagine, because oh yeah, during her horrific accident, her dear hubby had power of attorney over her and made plenty of loans and charges and to this day she is still getting judgments against her left and right!! To finally getting a lawyer to represent her, that she knew somewhat, who was an ex police officer turned lawyer and would help her and do pro bono work, but then when she finally came into due money (her delayed disability money from years ago) he became greedy and basically somehow, took it all. When she went for child support, in family court, after filing nothing at all himself every and not responding to anything, just as it was going to go to family court, he served her with papers for divorce, yanking it out of family court, to go into supreme court, knowing full well that would supersede family court! Sure this SOB knew every in and out and how to screw someone. He now is a big immigration lawyer and (hahaha) divorce lawyer in NYC making big bucks with an office on BROADWAY! (I am to polite to say the word I would like to say, and just in case any kids are reading I will refrain, but PLEASE use your imagination!) There was even more to the story after that, but I won't get into that, but amazingly this women feels blessed. She said my most famous words, (while I was thinking it all along, I just couldn't utter the simple cliche myself) she said..."Everything happens for a reason" and my other favorite, "what doesn't kill us, will only make us stronger". AMAZING!!

I SO wish I was wealthy and could have just given her the lawnmower. It took everything in me to not reduce the price down, and in the end I did split the difference with her, on her previous offer, which was not much. I SO wish I could do more. But at least I don't have to worry about a family going hungry for a measly hundred bucks..*sigh* Why is there so much injustice???????

I am so blessed with my beloved frog, he hopped into our lives and completed us all, his moral and principle is so admirable and impressive to me, that I pinch myself all the time, and truly do not feel that I have done enough to deserve such a wonderful gift! He is the most amazing person I ever have met, and he has touched our lives so very deeply that I can never thank him enough. I will adore this man to the day I die!! I wish everyone in their lifetime could feel the deep love that we have, but sadly I think some people have to go their lifetime without ever experiencing it. After meeting him, I realized, that no matter how many times before I "thought" I was in love, I was in fact NOT! I convinced myself, I pretended, I just wanted love to be there. I was blind and unknowing. After my life my prince charmant, I now know, and feel and have experienced LOVE over and over, everyday, growing and growing till I feel like we will all burst with it:) I also cannot say enough about him, (as you can see, I have 3 boys, I am deeply in love with:)


My last bite of humble pie, was tonight. I have a client who I adore, she is SO freaking funny and also an amazing woman! She has 3 beautiful kids and a great, great, Neil Diamond loving family, with colorful family members. She plays the accordion! She is the Director of Development for Francis House, a home for people with terminal illness's (granting every wish they have, if they want chocolate cake at midnight, one of the nuns will bake one fresh for them, no wish is too small, to make their last days brighter) There signature event, is one of the most successful fundraising events in this community welcoming over 1,200 guests and raising net proceeds over $300,000 and growing each year. She volunteers her time training and educating nonprofit organizations and development professionals to help further development and philanthropy in our communities. Really she does it all.

Her last child was born with many and I mean many complications!! He is almost 4 (so she has an 8, 6 and 4 year old!) and the most sweetest, melt your heart 100% little angel. He has almost had his last breath many times, had major brain surgery on more than one occasion , a permanent shunt to remove fluid that was somehow building up in his stomach and SO many other things.

For almost 1 year I think, he has had no surgeries. He has started to combat crawl, is SO cuddly and sweet, and is learning many new things. He can sit up by himself and can understand some things, his face is this adorable little cherub, but very distinct features, when he cries, its a very soft almost angelic noise, and his giant mouth that is normally in a wide happy grin, turns upside down and out the adorable lip goes, I told him "Aiden you are breaking my heart, what can I do" and he immediately turns it the other way and gives me this glorious grin! Never before have I had a little guy make me melt and fall in love with him so quickly. I love kids, but they call these kids "special" for a reason! I could have stayed and held him all night!! I offered my services any time and I will be waiting for my next visit with them!

To walk in her shoes, just in the home version of them, I couldn't believe it. She does this everyday and more!!


I will never again feel like, I have it tough! I have it easy, I always knew I was blessed, my children are healthy, we have our basics and that is all we need, we all have so much love for eachother and so much to share and give!!! Love is the foundation of life. Everything else is just meant to give you strength to your building!!!

I shed some tears for these people, but with their courage and strength and perseverance , it is not necessary. They too are blessed!! Oh yes they are!

Everything happens for a reason, there is always some reason for it, never doubt that! And every person that comes into your life, take something, learn something from them, you will be richer for it and they too will be richer!

Friday, May 05, 2006

follow up of last post

no idea how to put images on comments so here is the image I wanted to show... And I would love a real explanation about why the more exposed to sex you are the less you care about it...well the chart speaks for itself

yes, yes jillybean, I will write the joie de vivre post, I promise

Thursday, May 04, 2006

Cachez ce sein que je ne saurais voir... by Thomas

For the ones of you not familiar with "la comédie française", this sentence is from a play by Molière, called "Tartuffe" and talking about religious hypocrisis. I was supposed to write about what is French joie de vivre but after reading some comments, I just decided to talk about a different subject... Sex, nudity, sex and/or nudity, however you want to call it.

I keep having that discussion over and over with Americans and it appears that other more puritan countries than France also have a big problem with nudity, and see it as a sexual symbol. And I feel like rolling my eyes, everytime they bring the argument: "and how about kids watching???". I would like to stop here, and start by saying that nudity and sex are two different things and associate both is a terrible mistake. Why some people are shocked when they see a nude chest on tv, if not because they think wrong about it.

You see, I was born and raised in France, and I was lucky enough to live very close to the Ocean, so from a very young age, I was spending most of my holidays on beaches. As everybody knows (this time I am sure people are more aware of this than Tartuffe), topless women is a common thing in France, and I am very sure that I have seen plenty of pair of boobs being a kid... But guess what, I remember having fun in the waves, I remember building sand castles, I don't recall seeing one single topless woman.(if it wasnt for pictures , I wouldnt even remember I was naked till age 6)..Why? because it wasn't a big deal, I didn't care. My parents or other people never made it something abnormal and so I just didn't give a damn about something that was considered normal. Do you get shocked when a woman is breastfeeding in public? I am not. It is still a boob.

We have to stop pretending that we want to protect our kids about things that are shocking us as adults, we think differently, THEY think differently... (My cousin was taking bath with my brother and she was pulling on his weewee for fun - it is something shocking between adults, it is nothing bad for kids, that didn't traumatize them). You are shocked when you see a naked chest because YOU put an erotic response to the image. So unless you don't put that concept in his head at a very young age, I doubt he will have a sexual response till his teenage, which he will have anyway, naked chest or no. I am not really aware of female poition on this, but if they can find half naked male bodies on a beach arousing, should guys also start wearing bras just to protect little girls.

Should we start putting bras of the Venus of Milo, put a leaf on David's penis... How about covering the Sabines showing their boobs. We would probably have to mutilate most of the Renaissance pieces of art. Should we ban all signs of nudity to protect the corrupted consciences? (The same consciences who consider, by the way, violence as something natural - ok this is a direct attack on American puritanism here).

Now, don't get me wrong... I do find shocking all these HipHop videos displaying naked girls. But not because they are naked, but cause of the message sent, which is nothing but sexual (and nasty in a way).

One last point here, I remember myself when I was 12, and I am listening to 12yo americans talking together, they talk MUCH more about sex than we were, eventhough we are more exposed to sex (American pie is unrated in France. Rated R in USA).

Tuesday, May 02, 2006

Taking the chance to look through someone else's eyes...by kim

My theme last week seemed to be about reminiscing, this week, I seem to be thinking a lot about seeing things differently, through someone else's eyes, through a French person's eyes.

Since knowing Thomas, I am amazed at how one person could change one big person and 2 little peoples points of views. He has given us the gift of looking outside of our boxes! Making us realize there was more than just the views that we had been presented in our giant bubble of a country. We have so much diversity, but unless we actually listen to those people we will only see it the ways a family presents it or worse, how media presents it.

I grew up with a German mom, so I have more of a European background than the normal American. But she never presented or taught so much to us. With every little thing, the frog is teaching us, showing us a different way. It's all so interesting and unless its pointed out to you, you just think it's normal for everyone.

When he first came here, he wondered why the houses didn't have fences and gates, well I explained that we liked to be free and not have such monstrosities and confinements, but then recalled how much I adored the fences and gates in Germany. Yeah why don't we have little fences outlining our yard, we don't really want our neighbors on our property, or their dogs, or kids and we just expect them to know where that property is exactly!

When he noticed all the houses were made in wood, he wondered why they were not in stone, surely the insulation would be much better and they would last longer, and besides that how could families pass down houses and keep them in the families years after, if they were made in wood, they would never last more than a hundred years. I had no clue, we've come up with many theories, from wood being cheaper, to people moving so often, not really caring if a house lasted or not, to that way back when France was building houses they mainly had stone and not many 2x4's. But really I had no idea!

He gave us a new way of eating chocolate, before we would just chomp down a whole bar, we loved it so much, he taught us to take a small piece, savor it in our mouths, enjoy it, and put it away, to wait for the next day. Pickles gave one of his favorite teachers a chocolate bar, and explained that is the best way to enjoy chocolate. Believe me, at first, when he gave us this spiehl, we looked at eachother and said "okay, but really can we have another piece NOW", but slowly, we realized it does taste so much better when we savior it!

So now we take our time while eating, we put less importance on getting the dinner on the table by 6pm, and take our time getting it ready as a family, setting a nice table, (or at least trying) cooking together, chatting and eating as late as 8 or 9pm. At first I questioned, but its not good to eat so late, its bad for indigestion and it will add pounds quickly, he reminded me that the French have been doing it forever and don't suffer from those problems I stated.

When I first met him, and we were talking about how much we were learning from eachother. I made the comment, that every American, should have in their lifetime, a Penpal from another country, just to discuss differences and pick each others brains! It's a big world out there, and things are different all over, but all in all, (as one of my most favorite blogger says) people are people, the world over!

Monday, May 01, 2006

Yogurt is Yogurt, no?


All my life, I have had plenty of yogurt!! Acidolphus is good for us! It is our friend in many ways!

I have always had the typical american yogurt, the lowfat stuff, with flavors. It was OK, well, it was all I ever had, so there was nothing to compare it to.

Then the frog hopped into our lives and he kept talking about how our yogurt is so disgusting and that it was all this lowfat stuff, blablabla. I was thinking, really how much better could it be, you just miss your country that's all! Yogurt is Yogurt, afterall!

He will even say when I take you to France, we will eat yogurt, mmmmmm yogurt, I miss yogurt! And I'm thinking..when we go to France, I want to try sooo many other things than yogurt. :)

Well let me tell you...I have a new love!!! It is whole milk yogurt, OMG, this is the most wonderful thing in the world! The taste is almost orgasmic, I would take this yogurt flavored with natural lemon, over any ice cream here!!!

And the wonderful thing is, I can take about 50 steps, around the corner, where the new nature food market opened!! The problem I have is, for 8 oz it's $1.99, wooooooo!! Maybe I will consider figuring out how to make homeade yogurt, it can't be too hard!

Honestly those of you who eat yogurt and just think it is okay, try real, honest to goodness whole milk yogurt with the cream on the top *drool* and you will never be able to eat the other stuff again.

What is wrong with this country that we have everything LIGHT or FAT FREE, when really it tastes horrible, and it's full of chemicals that are doing the opposite of what they are promising. If we just learned to eat in moderation, but eat the good, real stuff, we may see we are more healthy than ever!